From the beginning of time, women have often found themselves shouldering the burden of accountability, whether it was Eve bearing the brunt of the fruit debacle or modern-day scenarios where women feel pressured to compromise themselves for the comfort of their partners. This post isn't about male-bashing but rather a reflection on the importance of not losing or compromising oneself for the sake of a relationship.
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As a woman in her 40s, married for nearly 14 years, I may not fully grasp the complexities of modern dating, but I've had countless conversations with single friends navigating the dating jungle in search of their Tarzan. Many have shared experiences where they felt obligated to acquiesce to their partner's desires, whether it was going on a date out of politeness or feeling compelled to reciprocate gestures with physical intimacy.
This sense of obligation often stems from societal conditioning, where women are taught that their bodies are rewards for male kindness. This mentality not only places undue pressure on women but also perpetuates a cycle where men expect entitlement without reciprocation.
It's crucial for women to understand that they are not obligated to bend over backward for someone who won't even lift a finger to meet their needs. You have the right to set boundaries and prioritize your own well-being, regardless of societal expectations. Men who demand a lot without offering reciprocity are not worthy of your time or energy. You deserve a partner who respects and cherishes you, someone who is willing to meet you halfway in every aspect of the relationship.
As you wait for a partner who truly deserves you, the most important person to invest in is yourself. Whether you are single or divorced, taking the time to get acquainted or re-acquainted with yourself is crucial. Here are some ways to invest in yourself:
Travel: Embark on an Eat, Pray, Love journey and explore the world while discovering more about yourself. Traveling can open your mind, broaden your perspectives, and help you understand who you are and what you want out of life.
Date Yourself: Take yourself out to dinner or a movie. Even if you are married, having self-care days is essential for recharging. Bring a book or watch your favorite show on your phone. It’s the perfect blend of dinner and a movie, just for you.
Learn Your Likes and Dislikes: Spend time identifying what you truly enjoy and what you don’t. This self-awareness will not only bring you closer to yourself but also help you determine what you are looking for in a partner.
Remember, you are never obligated to date someone out of politeness or to stroke their ego. Your worth is not defined by your ability to please others. Embrace your autonomy and hold out for a partner who sees your value and treats you accordingly.
Don't be Shy? Do you have any additional advice for the single ladies? If so, share in the comments.
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