I first learned about the author Debbie L. London when listening to the Become She podcast and was instantly drawn to her point of view pertaining to generational curses. I was so intrigued by the interview, I purchased her book, Residue: Surviving and Overcoming the Stains of Generational Curses and Soul Ties .
Generational curses is a topic that’s often swept under the rug and not talked about. After this interview I began wondering about the things I inherited from my blood line and I called my Uncle to talk about it. My Uncle broke down some of the things that had been passed down to each generation that it helped me to understand my family a little bit more. I also brought this topic up to my Dad and he commented, “just because it is in your bloodline does not mean you have to welcome it.” That was an interesting perspective as I never thought I had a choice in the matter. After reading this book I further learned what my Dad meant.
Main Idea of Book
At the start of the book, London defined generational inheritances as “hand me downs”. In other words, some of the mental and physical baggage we battle were given to us, yet we are faced with handling it. London also pointed out that some people have not even acknowledged these inheritances which in my opinion can be dangerous. Having solace in the fact that some of your battles are not yours but inherited can help you better understand what you are up against.
In the first chapter she further defined generational curses and how they start. She presented an example of how they are implemented by providing the example of the Willie Lynch letter . As disturbing as it was to read, I was able to detect so many behaviors and curses that has been culturally passed down from generation to generation. No matter the race, we have culturally inherited things that may have left an everlasting stain in our family. These cultural ‘hand-me-downs” have caused stains that have or are currently mentally and physically affecting us.
The following chapters covered the steps of identifying the stains and ways to overcome them. London shared some very personal occurrences she had to overcome. She talked about confronting difficult people in her life and forgiving them whether they were remorseful or not. She took us down a journey on how her utilization of prayer, pure honesty and the word of God helped her heal from past hurts and break generational barriers.
I loved the spiritual nuggets and the thought provoking questions at the end each chapter. This is a book that may need to be read several times during your time of healing. I studied her words concurrently with the scriptures she provided and I let the purging begin.
I highly recommend this book to individuals that are struggling with their past or individuals that feel stuck and want to break out the familial toxic cycles. After reading this I stopped using my parent’s baggage as a crutch to grow as a person. Parents are people first and have endured things in their past that shaped who they became. To go any deeper our grandparents are also people first that endured a life that shaped the people they are. In order to understand these behaviors were taught and passed down your bloodline creates empathy for our ancestors. I believe it would also create a drive inside of us to kill those things that have ripped the fabric of our families for years.
Knowing that your feelings matter or better yet, YOU matter brings peace. Be patient with yourself and trust in God during the healing process. You are worth it. You are enough.
Have you read this book? If so, please leave your thoughts and let’s chat. Also, if you have experienced breaking generational curses or have comments about them, please feel free to leave a comment.