The show Frasier was introduced in my life a little over 2 years ago. It was love at first watch! I love the heart and ego of Fraiser, over-confident Niles, the quirkiness of Marty, the sassiness of Roz and the bad-assedness of Daphne.
Although the Crane brothers were rather pretentious, in my opinion sometimes they had the right to be. Their Ivy league backgrounds and high credentials earned them bragging rights and they could care less about what others thought of them, most times at least.
The number one thing that drew me to this show was the Crane men good intentions and strong ethics. Although their goodwill did not always pan out, it was sincere and genuine. They walked in their success without apologies longing for a stellar romance that would match their careers.
One of my favorite Frasier episode is Season 4 Episode 12 “Death and the Dog”, where Frasier is sharing a personal story to cheer up one of his callers.
The Background of the Caller’s Story
The caller was in a rut. Frasier went on to explain a time when Marty’s dog Eddie was very depressed and Martin could not figure out what was wrong with him. As a last resort, he hired a per therapist, that Frasier and Niles found ridiculous and assinine. After questioning the household and Eddie (yes the dog), the pet therapist concluded Eddie was mirroring someone else’s sad energy. Everyone started talking about the down points in their life to determine whose life was the most depressing. As they were moping about their life Eddie becomes instantly happy upon finding his favorite doll. Shortly after Eddie’s discovery, a bell rings indicating Daphne’s cookies were done. The group instantly jumped out of their stupor and treated themselves to dessert. At the end of his story, Frasier’s concluding quote is,
“Even the happiest of us can find reasons to be unhappy if only we look for them. So don’t look for them. Take a tip from our dog friends – treat yourself to your favorite toy, whatever that might be.”
How true is that statement, though?
If you only spotlight the negative in your life how can you see the positive? If you are focusing who is not supporting you, how can you appreciate supportive people in your life? If you are always wanting more how can you be grateful for what you have?
I am a firm believer of there being more beauty in the world versus ugliness. There are good people in the world if we are diligently looking for them. There are opportunities at hand if we lift up our heads.
Frasier also mentioned to treat yourself to your favorite toy. Doing things you love and surrounding yourself with people who love you is the recipe for a brighter life. If I had to add to Frasier’s point…I would say don’t go looking for unhappiness. Life is not perfect and unfavorable things occur. But why miss the brightness of life focusing on the lack when there is so much Greatness you can experience!